Thoughts on Motherhood: How It Really Is

There are times when I run across something that has been forwarded (and forwarded, and forwarded, and forwarded) to me in an email that is a “keeper”.  I save them for future use. Sometimes I don’t know who originated it or who wrote the piece being forwarded. The Evolution of Motherhood is such a piece. I do not take any credit for it, except to have the sense of humor to enjoy it, the ability to recognize “truth” when I see it, and the “thoughtfulness” to share it with my readers. Let me know if there is a resonating chuckle of recognition out there – especially if you are a mother. 

The Evolution of Motherhood

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Yes, parenthood changes everything. But parenthood also changes with each baby. Here are some of the ways having a second and third child differs from having your first:

 Your Clothes

  • 1st baby: You begin wearing maternity clothes as soon as your OB/GYN confirms your pregnancy.
  • 2nd baby: You wear your regular clothes for as long as possible.
  • 3rd baby: Your maternity clothes ARE your regular clothes.

The Baby’s Name

  • 1st baby: You pore over baby-name books and practice pronouncing and writing combinations of all your favorites.  You check out the meaning of the names.
  • 2nd baby: You name it after your mom or dad or favorite uncle or great aunt.
  • 3rd baby: You hear a name on the 11:00 news and it sounds kind of nice.

Preparing for the Birth

  • 1st baby: You practice your breathing religiously.
  • 2nd baby: You don’t bother practicing because you remember that last time, breathing didn’t do a thing.
  • 3rd baby: You ask for an epidural in your 8th month.

The Layette

  • 1st baby: You pre-wash your newborn’s clothes, color-coordinate them, and fold them neatly in the baby’s little bureau.
  • 2nd baby: You check to make sure that the clothes are clean and discard only the ones with the darkest stains.
  • 3rd baby: Baby boys can wear pink, can’t they?


  • 1st baby: At the first sign of distress – a whimper, a frown – you pick up the baby.
  • 2nd baby: You pick the baby up when her wails threaten to wake your firstborn.
  • 3rd baby: You teach your 3-year-old how to rewind the mechanical swing.


  • 1st baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics, Baby Swing, and Baby Story Hour.
  • 2nd baby: You take your infant to the park.
  • 3rd baby: You take your infant to the supermarket and the dry cleaner.

Going Out

  • 1st baby: The first time you leave your baby with a sitter, you call home 5 times.
  • 2nd baby: Just before you walk out the door, you remember to leave a number where you can be reached.
  • 3rd baby: You leave instructions for the sitter to call only if she sees blood.

At Home

  • 1st baby: You spend a good bit of every day just gazing at the baby.
  • 2nd baby: You spend a bit of every day watching to be sure your older child isn’t squeezing, poking, or hitting the baby.
  • 3rd baby: You realize little children love to watch TV – you finally get some free time.

Marcy’s ending note: There are just some times in life that you have to learn to laugh, and with motherhood those times are continuous. The longest laugh is when seeing your child take off on her own, with her accumulated “stuff”– followed immediately by a good cry in her empty room.

How’s motherhood treating you? Are you surviving or enjoying every moment? (Well, most of them.)

©2012, Marcy Alves

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About Marcy

I love my Father-God. Together we are walking through a season of my life where I am standing with him against cancer. He is my strength and trust. As one of his daughters, my passion is to share his love with others in practical, everyday illustrations and insights.

Posted on May 9, 2012, in Humor, Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. Lela Spadoni

    yes, a lot of it is probably true, I”ll be able to tell better once our little girl arrives, but I am guessing it’s a combination of things. One, you are more experienced by the time you have your second and third child and know that your kids are going to be fine for couple of hours with a trusted babysitter for instance.
    and two, with your first child all of your attention goes to him/her but with two and three your attention has to be divided between them all or else you would have to neglect the first and the second child to give all your focus to the third one.
    but definitely, it made me smile. Not sure whether watching the older sibling poke, hit and squeeze the younger one will cause laughter or crying though 🙂 and again you just learn to laugh at those times too.

    • Spoken like a true mom expecting her second child. I’m sure you will do an awesome job and have a sense of humor about things – especially after the “rescue operations” are over. Congrats on you soon-coming little girl!

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